Explaining dreams where you meet a known person

Once, the mathematician Donald Newman(1930-2007) was struggling hard with a problem,  but couldn’t resolve it by any means.  He went to sleep at night and had a dream.  This was not the kind of dream which gives the solution to a problem, but a dream in which he met fellow mathematician John Nash. Newman asked Nash about the problem, and Nash told him the answer.  When Newman finally wrote the paper, he gave credit to Nash[1].  (I’m not kidding, read the story in this book or in the Scientific American ).

The Mother once gave four possible explanations for dreams in which you interact with a known person.  This is an excerpt from a Q&A session held on April 14, 1951.

Mother: …When one sees somebody in a dream (I am not speaking of dreams in which you see somebody unknown, but of those where you see somebody you know, who comes to see you) there are all sorts of explanations possible.

If it is someone living far away from you, in another country, perhaps that person has written a letter to you and the letter is on the way, so you see this person because he has put a formation of himself in his letter, a concentration; you see the person and the next morning you get the letter. This is a very frequent occurrence. [See a previous article “Messages on subtle planes” for an incident where the Mother received such a formation before getting a letter from the Indian Prime Minister Indira Gandhi (1917-1984)]

If it is a person with a very strong thoughtpower, he may think of you from very far, from his own country and concentrate his thought, and this concentration takes the form of that person in your consciousness. Perhaps it is that this person is calling you intentionally; deliberately he comes to tell you something or give you a sign, if he is in danger, if he is sick. Suppose he has something important to tell you, he begins to concentrate (he knows how to do it, as everyone does not) and he enters your atmosphere, comes to tell you something special.  Now if you are passive and attentive, you receive the message.

And then, two more instances still: someone has exteriorised himself more or less materially in his sleep and has come to see you. And you become conscious of this person because (almost by miracle) you are in a corresponding state of consciousness.

And finally, a last instance, this person may be dead and may come to see you after his death (one part of him or almost the whole of his being according to the relation you have with him).

Consequently, for someone who is not very, very careful it is very difficult to distinguish these nuances, very difficult.  On the other hand, quite often imaginative people will tell you, “Oh! I saw this person—he is dead.” I have heard that I don’t know how many times. These are people whose imagination runs freely. It is possible that the person is dead, but not because he has appeared to you!… One must pay great attention to the outer forms things take. There are shades very difficult to distinguish, one must be very, very careful. For oneself, if one is in the habit of studying all this, one can become aware of the differences, but to interpret another’s experiences is very difficult, unless he gives you in great detail all that surrounds the dream, the vision: the ideas he had before, the ideas he had later, the state of his health, the feelings he experienced when going to sleep, the activities of the preceding day, indeed, all sorts of things. People who tell you, “Oh! I had this vision, explain it to me!”, that is childishness —unless it is someone whom you have followed very carefully, whom you yourself have taught how to recognise the planes, and whose habits, whose reactions you know; otherwise it is impossible to explain, for there are innumerable explanations for one single thing [2].

What about dreams in which you interact with a person that you meet later in life?   Long before she met Sri Aurobindo in physical life, the Mother had some dreams where she saw a person resembling him who was wearing an Indian dhoti which she mistook for some kind of “vision dress“.

Question: How is it that in dreams one meets and knows people whom one meets and knows afterwards in the outer world?

Mother: It is because of the affinities that draw certain people together, affinities in the mental or the vital world. People often meet in these planes before they meet upon earth. They may join there, speak to each other and have all the relations you can have upon earth. Some know of these relationships, some do not know. Some, as are indeed most, are unconscious of the inner being and the inner intercourse, and yet it will happen that, when they meet the new face in the outer world, they find it somehow very familiar, quite well-known.[3]


  1. A Brilliant Madness.  Directed by Randall MacLowry. PBS, 2002.
  2. Collected Works of the Mother, vol. 4, pp 319-320.
  3. Collected Works of the Mother, vol. 3, p 16

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8 thoughts on “Explaining dreams where you meet a known person

  1. Shreenivas

    Sandeep, Good to read your posts on Sri A-The Mother after a long hiatus.

    Best wishes Shreenivas

    Sent from my iPad


  2. john

    “And finally, a last instance, this person may be dead and may come to see you after his death (one part of him or almost the whole of his being according to the relation you have with him)”

    Yes, i’ve seen many known dead [so-called] in dreams, who have either warned me or helped me with something – my dead father in particular. l find that these dreams are more realistic and leave a strong impression in the mind [they’re very similar to an exteriorization, but without the conscious realization]. Also, they’re much easier to remember.

  3. mikran

    I am Scots/Irish and have always been able to see and feel ghosts. My mother was from a large family and when one of them was preparing to leave, the shades (ghosts) would come. I was not a sleep I could just see them waiting down this long corridor. All moms family are gone now so the shades may be gone to I don’t know. I can also conjure people up. If I have not seen someone for a while and concentrate, I will either see them or have news of them. Same applies to dreams. Idon-t see it as siddhis though, Sri Aurobindo said that the Irish had the sight, as we call it in my family, just that as a woman, I I’ve not been as heavily indoctrinated as rational minded men.I also think its linked to place, as communities break up and families scatter the old powers are lost. My moms family cam to Australia as convicts and for 170 years they lived in the bush away from modern cities. Science of course only believes in measurement which excludes subjective occurrences


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